Thursday, March 28, 2013

On Being Lazy

When someone threatens to wash your dishes if said dishes are still unwashed the next time they come over, it's very tempting to not wash the dishes and see if that someone will uphold their part of the bargain.  However, I know that they would actually wash my dishes and then I would feel like a real piece of crap for letting them. 

In my defense, there really aren't that many dirty dishes on my counter.  It's just that I switched which side of the sink the dish drain is on and, rather interestingly, it makes the dirty dishes much more noticeable. 

I hate washing dishes.  And cleaning the bathtub, for that matter.  But it has to be done.  And normally I can force myself to do those sorts of tasks, because it's necessary.  (and it makes the house smell less funky.)  But this isn't really about being lazy.  It's about having a depression problem.  And the fact that when it hits, I pretty much don't care about the state of my kitchen counter.  But I'm not here to whine about it.  I'm here to tell you that I'm trying something new for it.

Yep.  And I am happy to report that I actually had the focus and determination to sit down and draw for two hours straight the other day.  That may seem tiny to you, but to me....it's HUGE.  

HUGE, I tell you!



Saturday, March 23, 2013

About Pinning

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When was the last time you cleaned up your pin boards?  I had a little cleaning party last night after being informed that some of my pins were too inappropriate for my teenage cousin to be perusing.  Oops!  This coming shortly after receiving an email from Pinterest informing me that they had removed one of my pins because it "apparently contained nudity".  I find this rather entertaining considering that I have seen some straight up porn floating around Pinterest many times, and without even looking for it!  But such is life.

Anyway....... after my little cleaning frenzy, I decided that it would behoove me to clean up my pin boards more often.  I mean, come on!  It's impossible to remember every little thing that you pin, especially months after you pinned it.  It was like when you unpack stuff that has been in storage for a very long time and you are so excited to see all those familiar yet somehow totally new things.

I dare you to try it.

It was also interesting to see how many things didn't even merit a response from me anymore.  Easily deletable.  And, thus, taking up precious space on my boards.

Instead of trolling what's new on Pinterest this weekend, I challenge you to dig through your own pin boards instead and see what you find.  I guarantee your time will be filled with several "Oh, yeah! I remember that!"s and "What did I pin that for?"s.   Let me know how it goes.  (Really.  Let me know.  I get lonely around here with no comments.)

*BTW.....If you have secret boards, you may want to know that you cannot move pins directly from your public boards to your secret boards.  You have to actually repin them and then delete the original pin from your public board.  Just a heads up.  


Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Relationships

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One of the things that a divorce inevitably results in is the deep consideration of relationships and what makes them work or fall apart.

Breakups hurt.  Divorces hurt.  And, I think we can all agree, relationships hurt.

I've spent a whole lot of time thinking about what went wrong in my last marriage.  I've tried to pin-point how on earth we went from being in love and happy to the place where one of us was willing to give up completely.

If you think about it, almost every relationship starts out the same way.  There is infatuation and adoration.  Chemical attraction and soaring dopamine levels.  Both parties confess their affection and make promises of devotion and undying love.  But, with time, all things change.  And of all the things that make or break a relationship, I truly believe (from the bottom of my heart) that the very most important component of love is RESPECT.

Many people will argue that trust is the most important quality in a relationship.  But how can you trust one another if you don't respect one another?  You can't.  In my opinion, without respect you have nothing.  You must respect the person you are with and they must respect you.  Once you lose that respect, it is almost impossible to get it back.  And that is where most relationships falter.

The day my marriage died was not a few months before my husband walked out the door.  It wasn't even a few years.  My marriage died when the respect for one another was lost.  And that happened within the first few fragile years of being together.   
We loved eachother very much.  And there were so many good qualities to our relationship.  But without the foundation of respect, we had nothing to stand on.  We were trying to build on sinking sand. 

End of story.