Monday, May 2, 2011


Ahhhh. May. The month of steady sunshine, planting gardens and a nagging desire to take a trip to the beach. It is also the month of my wedding anniversary. Tomorrow, the 3rd, will mark five years of marriage for me and hub.

Wow. Five years. Seems unreal. The first year of our marriage was spent apart. He was in Iraq fighting the war. The second was more like most people's first, I think. The third year was the year from hell. We came so close to splitting up that year. It seemed that we couldn't get along to save our lives. My depression came back. He drank a lot. But things got better. After we walked up to the edge and looked over and realized that if we jumped there would be no looking back, we made it work. We tried harder. We tried to remember why we even liked each other to begin with. And now, after five years, I look back at our relationship and it just keeps surprising me.

You know, marriage is a bitch. Let's just be honest. Some days are wonderful. Some days you just want to rip each other's throats out. And it keeps on changing. He wants to believe that some day I will change my mind about not wanting to have kids. I want to believe that some day he will quit acting like a pouting 12 year old every time he has to mow the yard. Sometimes the seven year age difference makes me wonder what the hell I was thinking. Sometimes I realize that the immaturity is exactly what I need, being that I am sort of a kid myself.

It all comes down to this...... It is what it is. Marriage is like every other thing in life. Sometimes it's great. Sometimes it sucks. And there is one thing for certain, we can never know what tomorrow will bring until we get there. So here's to life and a five year anniversary. Have yourself a drink tomorrow in my honor. But don't get too wild. ;)

*photo from la la lovely.


Flora said...

Congratulations on Five Years! Your right...It Is What It Is! This fall it will be 39 years for us! It has been what it has been! Commitment has kept us together...and I must say we have become Best Friends!

annelise said...

Congratulations on five years! I think, even if it's hard work, as long as it's worth it all in the end, that's the main thing. And lady, it's so refreshing to hear someone say marriage is a bitch. Just because you love someone doesn't mean that life is roses. So much in blogland, I read about how wonderful someone's life is and I really don't care. I care about the real stuff. You're real and I like that.

I didn't realise your husband was away for the first year. That would have been tough.

Maybe I will have a drink for you both tonight tonight. Oh, go on, twist my arm, I will!

Julia (Color Me Green) said...

five years! congrats! i think a relationship that keeps surprising you is a good one...don't want things to get too boring.

Matt said...

I will be here and will gladly have a drink in your honor. White wine ok? Considering mon ami has a mini-keg at home I make no promises about the rest. ;)

Kristin W said...

I second Annelise's comments! Congrats on five years! We just made it through one year, so I'm interested to see what the next four bring. It is refreshing, on a blog, to hear about struggles of marriage. Love it.

Jen said...

Amen darling! Happy Anniversary to you guys but you're right, marriage (and relationships in general) can be a bitch. Heck, life can be a bitch. I can even be a bitch. Ok, enough with the bitch stuff (guess I like that word today) but seriously, props to both of you for sticking it out. And never ever forget that you're not alone: everyone has issues, everyone has problems and everyone has the good times too. Comes with the territory ;-)